For your blog this week, think of someone who
demonstrates competent communication within a particular context. What
behaviors does this person exhibit that make him or her effective? Would you
want to model some of your own communication behaviors after this person? Why
or why not?
The one
person who always comes to mind when thinking of effective communication is my
husband Jon. He is always great about listening to what you have to say and
then communicating his thoughts on the matter. I have always had a hard time
articulating my true feelings and saying what’s on my mind. During our first years
together Jon helped me with my communication skills. If I wasn’t being clear or
giving enough information about how I felt about something he would ask me more
detailed questions. He would also call me out when I was holding back and not
being open about something. I am now able to be more open and direct in my
communication. I am still working on my communication skills, but I know that
they are so much better than they used to be.
How wonderful to have a person so close to you to help support you in your learning process but also be able to use this skill to build and develop your own personal relationship as well. Than you for sharing and I look forward to learning more with you during these next eight weeks.
ReplyDeleteAngela,
ReplyDeleteI know many people who say they have a hard time with expressing their feelings openly and directly. I actually have the opposite problem. In my blog, I mentioned that at times I can be too open and direct when communicating my feelings with others. Most of the time they appreciate my honesty, but at times my words can be harsh. I am working on being a honest, yet respectful communicator.
Krista
Hi Angela,
ReplyDeleteYour husband sounds like a great person who has helped you to become an effective communicator. I think my husband has done the same thing with me and vice versa. It is wonderful to have someone you can speak so openly and honestly with.
Lori
Angela,
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like you have a wonderful husband. I wish I had had a husband like that. I too have always struggled to communicate my feelings and let my wishes be known when I was married. At the end of our marriage I tried my best to be more open and honest, in the end it did not matter, but I knew that I gave it everything I had, and I learned that I have to take that into the next relationship I have. I hope you have Jon around for a very long time and that you are able to be more open and honest with him. I also think that it is great that he encourages you to do that and seems to know when you need it.
Jodi
That is fantastic that your husband helps you with this. I find that I am not a very wordy person and my husband helps me in this area. I get so frustrated because I am so opinionated yet have a problem expressing myself. Tell your hubby that husbands not listening to their wife is a very common complaint and it sounds like he gets an A in that department. :)
ReplyDeleteTalk about communication. Out of all the blogs I went to so far, your's is the only one I've been able to post to.
ReplyDeleteYour husband, can we clone him? (lol) Thanks for shareing your post.
Sometimes we forget that listening is an important part of communicating and I'm glad that your husband really take the time to listen to you. It feels great to be heard.
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